Big difference, huh? My approach will not make you feel good. And I know how important it is for you to feel good. But feeling good never got you to do anything. If you listen to a speaker who makes you feel good, I doubt you will ever do a thing. If you listen to a speaker who makes you feel uncomfortable, then you might do something.

For instance, about 70 percent of our society is overweight. Do you believe me? If not, look down. If that does not work, then look around, as it will not take long to find that I am right. There was a time in my life when I was a good 25 pounds overweight. As I gained weight I learned the trick. Just buy bigger clothes and wear a lot of black. That way when you get all dressed up, you can look in the mir¬ror and say to yourself, “You know, I look pretty good!” As long as you convince yourself that you look pretty good, you are never going to lose weight. It is when you are on your way to the bathroom about three in the morning and you catch a glimpse of yourself in the bath¬room mirror with your gut and your butt hanging out, and you stop and say to yourself, “Damn, I’m huge!” That is when you are going to do something.

Why? Because you are not comfortable with yourself. You do not feel good about yourself. What about when you are walk¬ing back from the bathroom and someone you love and trust says to you, “Damn, you are huge!” (And she did not mean it in a compli¬mentary way!) Then, I guarantee you will do something. Because that is motivation!

Think of me as that trusted loved one who just caught you walk¬ing back from the bathroom and I am the one saying to you, “You are huge!” My goal in this book is to make you uncomfortable. Only after you become uncomfortable will you ever begin to change.

Feeling good does not create change. Feeling uncomfortable creates change. Why do you change your position in your chair? Because the position you are in is uncomfortable and you are changing it to get more comfortable. If you were not uncomfortable in your current position then you would not move. You would just stay where you are.

I want my words to make you uncomfortable. Why? I want you to change. I want you to discover your best self and go for it. I want you to believe in what you are able to do, to create, to accomplish, and to achieve.

I want to give you a focus and a direction. I want to encourage you to do something. I want you to take action. But it has to be action focused on what you really want. Not the kind of action that has you running around like a chicken with its head cut off.